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I love learning. I don’t mind learning things from people. I miss college most of the time and find you learn a lot simply by engaging people in conversation. I have no problem with that.
It seems like you’ll always find someone willing to teach you the way to fix whatever problem ails you. There’s always someone to tell us what we should and shouldn’t do in order to be successful, happy, in love, find love, get over love. How to succeed in business without really trying. How to find love, where to find love, how to keep the fire burning etc. It seems like a lot of people have things to say about a lot of subjects. That’s fine. I also know that the way sex sells when it comes to tv shows, is the same way a relationship blog will always get more hits. I don’t have any stats to substantiate that sentence, but I’m pretty sure I don’t need one.
Here’s the thing tho, what are the credentials?
I know you would want the person writing the “how to be an author” book to actually have something published! That’s not too much to ask. And the thing is, if you were searching for help on a specific topic, you would want the person giving such advice to follow their own. Oprah can’t tell me how to skateboard, but she can tell me how to build a brand. You wouldn’t take financial advice from a homeless person, would you? I didn’t think so.
Then WHY are people not asking for some form of credibility when it comes to giving out relationship advice? I’m not mad that people gave Steve Harvey the side eye when he came out with a book telling women how to behave. The thing is, not enough people questioned his credibility to keep them from adopting “thinking like a man” tendencies.
Not saying that a person has to give all their personal business to their audience, but if you’re telling me (or hoping to) how to be successful in love, then BEST BELIEVE I need to see the receipts. It’s that simple. I suppose I wouldn’t be so “face screwed” if the advice/lists/preaching didn’t sound so definitive.
“Here’s EVERYTHING you’re doing wrong and it’s the truth cuz I said so”
Could it be, that everyone is SOO pressed to learn about men/women that we don’t care where the advice is coming from? We’ve already established that there are no set rules. There is NO set list that will apply to everyone except “boys have a penis, girls have a vagina” and even THAT is suspect. The fact that you’re male doesn’t automatically give you an “in” with me. Then again, that could just be because I like to question “why?” followed closely by a “who is you?”
I just don’t get the logic. But momma always said not everyone would understand me.
Is it just me? Do you look for credibility when figuring if someone is authorized to speak on a subject? And if people ask for some “certification” in every other aspect, why do you think relationships are the one subject people will accept blindly? Desperation? Loss of hope? Clutching at straws?
still asking everyone “who is you!?”
Peace and Love, Nick
p.s. Have a great weekend.. OH! And I added one more measure to the comments in order to decrease my spam. Sorry for the math, but really, it’s simple math! Love you..